Are You Experiencing Separation Anxiety?
by Susan Fox, CH, AA
“Anxiety is the hand maiden of creativity.” TS Eliot
When Jason, my firstborn son, reached school age, I panicked. Having an incurable heart condition described by cardiologists as “a ticking time bomb with an unknown explosion date” I conjured up images of him going into cardiac arrest in school. Who had time to practice faith that everything would be all right? This was my only child we were talking about. And he would be getting on a bus, being exposed to germs and all kinds of unknowns that could hurt him. Who could express gratitude for such a thing? Certainly not me!
Being a newly divorced single mom at the time, and living thousands of miles away from my family back in Arizona, I worried how Jase and I could adapt to life in the Washington, DC area. Since I joined the Air Force everything was all changed. And at the moment, back in 1979, I was fretting so much I was giving myself a headache! A part of me wanted him to go to school and yet another part of me never wanted to let him out of my sight. As a parent or grandparent taking care of your kid’s children, can you relate to this feeling?
But we are not on this earth to focus on how to live frightfully. That is no way to live. I agree with TS Eliot. Anxiety is the hand maiden of creativity. I had to learn to trust that the Loving Universe was already taking good care of me and Jase. We were quite a duo, my little trooper with the indomitable spirit. And as I learned later in life, the Loving Universe definitely does take good care of us all.
I Get To Ride a Bus!
Jason was quite excited about going to school. I was the basket case. But he just took everything for what it was. We prepared as best we could for him to go to this first day of school. He chattered about having a back pack like the big kids as we drove to the babysitters. And no matter how anxious I felt, he actually did get through the day just fine.
When Jase got off the bus after his first day of school, he was blue. His lips were blue, his skin was blue. He had so much fun being with the other kids, he didn’t think anything about his health. He was just happy to be! And I’m so grateful that his babysitter and our dear friend Carol was a nurse. She knew exactly what to do.
As I look back on those years when Jason was little and going through all his health challenges, I think now that all the fretting and worrying I did never stopped him from hooking and jabbing with the best of them. He was all boy and did what little boys did. He “manned up” to the best of his age level and just pressed on through.
Kids with special physical handicaps can really be a concern for us moms (and dads, too.) And now that school is about to restart, I wonder what all the moms and dads with kids who are healthy are going through. Are you going through separation anxiety that your child will be safe and happy? If you are, I can tell you from my personal experience, that by focusing on what might happen that’s bad, does not protect your child from anything bad that might happen. What DOES help is to assume that the Loving Universe is here providing all that we need to enjoy life.
So, I encourage all parents out there who are protective of their children to relax. With unwavering faith and conviction that everything will turn out according to the Loving Universe’s plan for you and your children, everything will turn out that way. By trusting in the nature of good, good happens. This is simple Law of Attraction stuff at work.
Have a separation anxiety story you’d like to share where everything really did turn out all right? Please share it with me and others who regularly read my blog. Or, if you want help understanding how to develop trust and faith using your intuition to live a happier life, call me today for a coaching session in the US and Canada at (740) 531-0400. Email me with your comments or questions at brainviewtraininginstitute@gmail.com!