As a caregiver, sometimes the unexpected happens. This last week a friend, colleague and caregiver to her aging mother survived the imminent crossing over event. We can prepare practically and logically for the event but when it actually happens, emotions can get the best of us. To help her prepare for the event, we did a hypnosis session. During the session, I suggested scenes about what the final caregiving event would look like. By mentally rehearsing what would most likely happen, my friend felt much calmer and prepared for the unexpected during the real event.
To help her, throughout the week, we had been in touch by telephone. Talking through the steps of what would most likely be happening, as I do with all my crossing over clients, we mentally walked through the scenario. I revealed how the steps would progress and though she felt emotional about much of it, she felt more prepared than most others who just “gut it out.”
How The Caregiver Can Cope With The Crossing Over Process
During the process of crossing over, many things happen behavior-wise for the person getting ready to complete his or her earth life mission. I explained the type of behaviors her mom might display. As her mom began to behave erratically and illogically, I explained what was probably happening. As the physical body, has less and less ability to hold on to the spirit body, the crossing over person’s behavior can seem unsettling.
Unsettling behavior may appear as mental instability, anger or an NDE. This can be very upsetting to see especially if characteristically unnatural words are spoken by the person getting ready to cross. To my friend, this is one thing that did happen. Her once responsible acting and behaving mother no long was able to be reasonable.
Idea On How to Cope With the Unexpected
If you are caregiving for your aging parent, if he or she begins to say insensitive things, you can find peace and comfort for yourself by saying, “That’s not mom (or dad) anymore. That’s simply a physical body that is out of touch with the real spirit of the mom (or dad) I knew.” Learning to accept and sometimes practically work with what’s happening can help you get through it easier.
What You Might See or Hear as the Physical Body Deteriorates
As the physical body begins to lose system function, natural things occur. Rather than describe what that can look like in this blog post, I recommend you ask the professional medical care team caring for your loved one to reveal what this can look like. For some, it can be quite upsetting to see.
In some cases, it may be appropriate to step out of the room where your loved one is and cry if that’s necessary for you. In other cases, it doesn’t matter. But the important thing to remember about the crossing over event is that your loved one will need support.
Something else you might hear or see is actually an NDE (near death experience.) As some people are getting ready to cross over, they may speak to relatives they see on the other side. Often, this can be very comforting to the one getting ready to cross over but upset to survivors who do not believe in the afterlife. To comfort your loved one, be supportive and instead of minimizing what the loved one is experiencing, just accept that it might be possible.
Focusing on how awful the physical body looks as it is breaking down does not provide support. So, if you feel shocked at what you see, consider talking with a counselor to express your shock. I recommend you do this outside of the room where your loved one is. And, since there is nothing further that can be done to stop the natural deterioration process, it’s supportive to your loved one to talk about inspiring or uplifting things.
Imagine being in the loved one’s position. What would help you best get through the process? When you talk about things that help bring emotional comfort for your loved you, you are really there for them. Wouldn’t you want someone to really be there for you in a way that helps you experience a peaceful crossing over?
Have any insights or comments about being a caregiver? If so, please tell me about it by email at brainviewtraininginstitute@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you.